Dr. Robert Huizenga, LMFT, CSW 

Would you like a recipe, a step-by-step guide to help you break through the confusion and fear? Would you like to know the right words to say and when to say them so that they have the maximum impact? Do you want to find a way to stay connected, yet not push him away?Don’t leave the affair to chance. Don’t wait for “time to heal.” Don’t waste time with simplistic suggestions or vague generalities. Don’t act out of desperation.
Use my 20 plus years of research, study, experience and therapeutic work with thousands of people to act with purpose and confidence, knowing EXACTLY what you need to do to break free from the affair.
Avoid the 2 HUGE Mistakes 95% People Make:
1. They try harder…to tolerate.
Doesn’t work. You prostitute your integrity…and deep down you know it.. and resent it. As well, you feel like you are competing with the OP (other person.) If he does stop the affair and “comes back” it is out of guilt or pity and what do you really have then?
2. Others Go on the attack.
Doesn’t work either. And if he does “come back” it’s out of coercion. Don’t you want to be wanted rather than have him feel like he must be with you because you bullied him?
A Step-by-Step Guide that That REALLY WORKS for YOUR SITUATION:
STEP 1. Know in your Heart that the Affair is NOT your Fault. My E-book convinces you that the affair is not your fault. This shift in your thinking is vitally important if you truly want to break free from the affair.
STEP 2. You MUST Pinpoint the EXACT Kind of Affair Facing You. People are different, right? Well, so are affairs. Affairs are exceedingly complex, but there are patterns that you can identify. I’ve identified 7 kinds of affairs marked by the different excuses most commonly used.
STEP 3. Discover what Internally Drives Him to this “Act of Temporary Insanity.” People with different motives have different kinds of affairs. You will understand his personality, how his past influences him, how he typically copes with relationships, his self-defeating patterns and more.
STEP 4. The FIRST and TOUGHEST Questions you MUST ask Yourself: Why do I remain with someone who is so self-destructive and has such little regard for me? Do I REALLY want to be (married) in relationship with this person? Here’s the underlying problem. If you hold on to the relationship because of your neediness or external factors, the chances of getting what you want are slim.
STEP 5. Realistically: What are the Odds of Saving Your Marriage? As you might guess, the odds of saving your marriage vary according to the kind of affair facing you. Using a scale of 1 – 10 for each kind of affair, the odds are based on the premise that you and he will continue in the same patterns.
STEP 6. With Your Crystal Ball – Predict the Future. Yes, you can see into the future. Affairs are predictable. Once you identify the patterns you can project ahead and know what most likely will happen next.
STEP 7. How to Increase the Odds of Saving the Marriage, If that’s What You Really Want To Do. Once you see the larger picture and have gathered yourself emotionally, it’s time to act.
In the E-book I provide an outline of exactly what action you can take for each kind of affair. I put words into your mouth, giving you phrases you can use with your partner that fit exactly your situation.
With each kind of affair I list skills that work best with that affair and increase your chances for making significant change.
Don’t wait. Start breaking free right now! You can do it!

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